–Cheryl Seidel–
– Ask Cheryl – Who Gets the Final Say on the Bridal Shower Guest List?
March 12, 2019
Today’s question tackles the often-debated bridal shower guest list. Who gets the final say: the bride or the hostess? Cheryl offers some clear guidelines and practical advice to help bickering brides and their hostesses. Dear Cheryl, My mother and sister are throwing me my bridal shower and asked that we go over the invite list. […]
– Ask Cheryl – How to Handle a Giftless Guest
February 26, 2019
When a guest doesn’t bring a gift, are brides obligated to write a note thanking her attending? Cheryl gives two options for how to handle a gifteless guest. Dear Cheryl, My daughter is writing thank you cards for gifts received at her bridal shower. She informed me that she did not receive a gift from […]
– Ask Cheryl – Do Bridal Shower Guests Also Need to Be Invited to the Wedding?
January 22, 2019
It seems like every wedding involves at least one difficult invitation situation. How should the mother of the bride handle someone who offers to host a shower, but wasn’t included on the wedding guest list? Dear Cheryl, Like most couples, our daughter and future son-in-law have had to limit the guest list for various reasons, […]
– Ask Cheryl – Who Should Be Invited to a Bridal Shower?
January 8, 2019
Guest lists are tricky, but this is one question that can be answered with clear-cut guidelines. Hi Cheryl, My co-worker is throwing a wedding shower for me and has asked me for a list of people to invite. My whole work team will be invited to the wedding, so I will only include female team […]
– Ask Cheryl – Can I Give a Group Bridal Shower Gift?
December 11, 2018
Hi Cheryl, I’ve received an invitation to the bridal shower of my brother-in-law’s bride-to-be. This is his third marriage and her second. My three daughters are also invited, two of whom are in college. My youngest is a junior in high school. None of my daughters are working regularly. I planned to give a cashmere […]
– Ask Cheryl – How Do I Handle a Giftless Wedding Guest?
November 27, 2018
It’s all too common: a wedding guest shows up to the wedding, but never sends a gift. Is it ever appropriate to say something? Cheryl weighs in. Dear Cheryl, My cousin and his wife came to our son’s wedding but did not give a card or gift. Do I say something or just let it […]
– Ask Cheryl – Who Should I Invite to My Bachelorette Party?
November 6, 2018
The bachelorette party has become a huge production in recent years. What once was a fun night out with the bridesmaids has become an extravagant (and expensive) weekend-long trip. With the new bachelorette party comes new questions, like who should be invited? Hi Cheryl, What is the etiquette on inviting friends to a bridal shower […]
– Ask Cheryl – Do I Have to Invite the Crazy Relative to My Wedding?
October 9, 2018
Every family has its quirky members, but is it ever ok to exclude them from the wedding guest list? Today, Cheryl offers her tips for hard-to-handle guests. Dear Cheryl, We’re in a bit of situation with our brother-in-law. At our daughter’s wedding, his behavior was so obnoxious that we decided to leave him out of […]
– Ask Cheryl – Should Future Grandmas Invite Each Other to Baby Showers They are Hosting?
August 14, 2018
Today we’re tackling two hot topics when it comes to baby showers: who should host; and who should be invited. With two future grandmas hosting separate events, Cheryl advises how best to handle the question of whether it’s appropriate for the grandmas-to-be to invite one another. Hi Cheryl, Both the future grandmas are holding separate […]
– Ask Cheryl – What’s Worse Than a Bridezilla? Two!
June 26, 2018
I’m often asked about etiquette for same-sex weddings. Are there differences? I’ve found that in general, the etiquette questions and dilemmas are the same no matter who is saying, “I do!” Take, for example, this question from a couple who finds themselves taking orders from two bossy brides. Dear Cheryl, I am writing on behalf […]
– Ask Cheryl – Can I Invite a Friend to My Niece’s Bridal Shower?
June 12, 2018
We hear this question quite often, and the answer never changes. Read on to find out more! Hi Cheryl, I am attending my niece’s bridal shower. Is it proper to ask the host, my sister-in-law, if I can invite a close friend of mine to attend? Thanks, Yvonne Hi Yvonne, Thank you for writing! The […]
– Ask Cheryl – Should Mother of the Groom Invite Close Friends to Son’s Second Wedding?
May 28, 2018
The topic of second marriages comes up frequently in the Ask Cheryl mailbox. Hopefully, this week’s question and answer will clear up questions about invitation and gift-giving etiquette. Hi Cheryl,My son is getting married for the second time, but this is his fiancé’s first wedding. Should I invite my close friends to his second wedding […]
– Ask Cheryl – How Much to Spend on a Gift for an Acquaintance?
April 10, 2018
When you’re invited to celebrate the wedding of someone who isn’t a family member or close friend, choosing an appropriate wedding gift can be tricky. Read on for my advice. Dear Cheryl, I’ve been invited to the second wedding of someone I would consider to be an acquaintance, but not a personal friend. The bride-to-be […]
– Ask Cheryl – Which Traditions Should We Keep for our Second or Third Weddings?
March 26, 2018
Traditions like throwing the bouquet and cutting the cake are celebratory, but are they appropriate beyond the first wedding? Dear Cheryl, My upcoming marriage will be my third, and my fiance’s second. We originally planned to have a small gathering, but because of the size of his family it is turning into a larger celebration. […]
Who Traditionally Throws A Baby Shower? Is It Okay For A Family Member To Host?
March 19, 2018
Baby showers became popular during the baby boom era of the 1950s as a way help new moms prepare. They are also a way for family and friends to celebrate the new arrival. Today, in addition to traditional baby showers, many are opting to host a “Sprinkle” (for encore babies) or a “Sip and See” […]
– Ask Cheryl – Should I Return the Engagement Ring?
February 26, 2018
When a couple chooses to call off their wedding, there are many practical as well as emotional implications. Today, we address the engagement ring: who keeps it? Dear Cheryl, My fiancé and I have decided to call off our wedding by mutual agreement. Am I now expected to return my engagement ring? Please advise. -Samantha […]
