Ask Cheryl: Appropriate Gifts for Wedding #2

This week’s question deals with gift-giving etiquette for second marriages—and in these situations, gift-givers have a few options!

Dear Cheryl,

My best friend’s son is getting married for the second time, but this is the bride’s first marriage. We are very close to these people, so what is appropriate for a gift?

Thanks,
-Rachel

 


Hi Rachel,

You have a couple of options here. Traditional etiquette states that if you purchased a gift for the first wedding, you do not need to give a gift for a second marriage. 

Did you purchase a gift for the groom’s first wedding?

  • If yes, you have the option to forgo the gift. However, you can give a gift if you wish to — it’s really your choice. Gifting is always at the discretion of the giver.
  • If not, it’s inconsequential that it is the groom’s second marriage. Give a normal wedding gift. Most gifts that would be given for a first marriage are also appropriate for a second wedding. If the couple has a wedding registry, you can select something from that or choose to give a monetary gift, depending on your customs and preferences. Your closeness to the couple and your budget determine how much you spend.

 


If you have questions or comments about this post, gift giving, bridal showers, baby showers, or wedding etiquette, please comment below or email AskCheryl@RegistryFinder.com.

Questions in this column are received from readers. They may be edited for spelling, length, and grammar or to remove sensitive information. However, we are careful not to alter the intent or content of the question.

By Cheryl Seidel

Cheryl is a happily married mom to two adult children and has recently enjoyed being a mother-of-the-bride. Her background in product development and marketing led Cheryl to create RegistryFinder.com, a search engine for gift registries, in 2012. Long considered a gift-giving and gift etiquette expert, her firm belief is that gifting should be fun, easy, and stress-free! Readers regularly write to Cheryl about their etiquette questions and she answers them here on our blog.

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