– Ask Cheryl – Does Wedding Attendance Affect Wedding Gift Value?

October 26, 2021

Today’s question comes from a reader in New York who wants to know if the amount she spends on a wedding gift should be dependent on whether or not she attends the wedding. Dear Cheryl, Is there a difference in the amount you spend on a wedding gift when you attend a wedding versus what […]

What to Do When the Invitation Says “No Gifts”

June 22, 2021

It’s a hard reality to face — receiving an invitation that says “no gifts” in one form or another. Perhaps you’ve heard through the grapevine that the happy couple has requested that no wedding gifts be purchased, or maybe you’ve been invited to a present-free birthday party. Whatever the case, it’s likely you’re itching to […]

– Ask Cheryl – How Much Should You Spend on a Wedding Gift?

May 11, 2021

One of the most common questions in our “Ask Cheryl” inbox is how much to spend on wedding and shower gifts. And while we love a hard and fast etiquette rule, this is one of those questions that doesn’t have a “one size fits all” answer. The amount a guest spends depends on their personal […]

– Ask Cheryl – How to Avoid Wedding Registry Blunders

January 10, 2021

What Should NOT be Included in my Wedding Gift Registry? Creating your ultimate wedding wishlist is a fun experience and the perfect opportunity to ask for some unique gifts you wouldn’t normally request from your family and friends. But are there some things you should leave off your wedding registry? Dear Cheryl, I want to […]

– Ask Cheryl – Help! I’m Tired of Going to So Many Baby Showers!

July 14, 2020

The arrival of a new baby is always exciting! First baby, second baby, third baby, fourth baby; each one a new special blessing! But what may not be as exciting as the new baby, is the arrival of a second, third, or fourth baby shower invitation for the same family member! Your initial thought may […]

– Ask Cheryl – When Should I Send a Wedding Gift if the Ceremony and the Reception Are a Year Apart?

June 23, 2020

With so much uncertainty and fear surrounding the Corona virus, it has been refreshingly romantic to see the creative ways that some couples have decided to proceed with exchanging their wedding vows, even if it meant cancelling, downsizing, or postponing the reception! If you do know a couple who will be having a small (somewhat […]

– Ask Cheryl – What To Do About Late or Never Received Wedding Gifts?

April 28, 2020

Wedding gifts may continue to arrive at your new home a month (or more) after your wedding day. Family and friends may even tell you to anticipate the arrival of such a gift, in the spirit of celebration and with hopes of showering you with love. But what do you do when those promised gifts […]

– Ask Cheryl – How Long Do I Have to Send a Wedding Gift?

March 24, 2020

Giving gifts to the wedding couple serves as a tangible representation of your love and support. When you’re invited to a wedding, you should send a gift, whether or not you are able to attend – but when should you send it?   Dear Cheryl, I was invited to my friend’s wedding, and unfortunately was […]

– Ask Cheryl – Should I Send a Wedding Gift to My Former Niece?

March 10, 2020

Wedding etiquette can get a little tricky when there is a divorce in the family. Being a “former” extended family member might mean you are excluded from the wedding guest list; but is it obligatory or even ok to send a gift? Dear Cheryl, I am divorced, but a niece from his side is getting […]

– Ask Cheryl – Is a First Baby Shower Mandatory?

February 11, 2020

You’re pregnant with your first baby! Congratulations! This is such a special time, and it’s a time to celebrate. Chances are, your friends and family will want to celebrate the upcoming arrival of your little bundle of joy too! But is a baby shower necessary? Maybe you feel like a baby shower is just another […]

Who Gets a Gift from the Bride and Groom?

August 29, 2019

Aside from receiving gifts on your wedding day, proper wedding etiquette suggests  that you give a few gifts, too. You may already be aware of the fact that the bride and groom generally give gifts to members of their wedding party as a thank you. But, by only giving gifts to your wedding party, you […]

– From Chicago Tribune – Is it rude that an older engaged couple has a wedding registry?

June 12, 2019

Cheryl Seidel, etiquette expert and founder of RegistryFinder.com, was featured on ChicagoTribune.com’s article Is it rude that an older engaged couple has a wedding registry? Click on the image below to read the full article at ChicagoTribune.com.

– Ask Cheryl – Can I Create a Gift Registry for a Second Marriage? 

March 26, 2019

Hello Cheryl, My daughter is getting married in March. It is her second marriage as well as her fiancé’s second marriage, and we are wondering if it’s okay to register for gifts. They really wanted to go with HoneyFund for their honeymoon, but decided to also register for a few gifts at a retail store. […]

– Ask Cheryl – How to Handle a Giftless Guest

February 26, 2019

When a guest doesn’t bring a gift, are brides obligated to write a note thanking her attending? Cheryl gives two options for how to handle a gifteless guest. Dear Cheryl, My daughter is writing thank you cards for gifts received at her bridal shower. She informed me that she did not receive a gift from […]

– AskCheryl – What’s an Appropriate Engagement Party Gift?

February 11, 2019

Did you know that over 40% of all marriage proposals occur between Thanksgiving and Valentine’s Day? With so many engagements on the horizon, I’ll be asked many questions about engagement gifts and engagement party etiquette. Today’s question comes from a grandmother who wants advice about selecting an engagement gift for her granddaughter. Hello Cheryl, For […]

– Ask Cheryl – Can I Give a Group Bridal Shower Gift?

December 11, 2018

Hi Cheryl, I’ve received an invitation to the bridal shower of my brother-in-law’s bride-to-be. This is his third marriage and her second. My three daughters are also invited, two of whom are in college. My youngest is a junior in high school. None of my daughters are working regularly. I planned to give a cashmere […]

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