– Ask Cheryl – Can I Give a Group Bridal Shower Gift?

December 11, 2018

Hi Cheryl, I’ve received an invitation to the bridal shower of my brother-in-law’s bride-to-be. This is his third marriage and her second. My three daughters are also invited, two of whom are in college. My youngest is a junior in high school. None of my daughters are working regularly. I planned to give a cashmere […]

– Ask Cheryl – How Do I Handle a Giftless Wedding Guest?

November 27, 2018

It’s all too common: a wedding guest shows up to the wedding, but never sends a gift. Is it ever appropriate to say something? Cheryl weighs in. Dear Cheryl, My cousin and his wife came to our son’s wedding but did not give a card or gift. Do I say something or just let it […]

Here’s How Much Time You Have After the Wedding to Send a Gift

May 23, 2018

Cheryl Seidel, etiquette expert and founder of RegistryFinder.com, was featured on CNBC.com’s article Here’s how much time you have after the wedding to send a gift. Click on the image below to read the full article at CNBC.com.

– Ask Cheryl – How Much to Spend on a Gift for an Acquaintance?

April 10, 2018

When you’re invited to celebrate the wedding of someone who isn’t a family member or close friend, choosing an appropriate wedding gift can be tricky. Read on for my advice. Dear Cheryl, I’ve been invited to the second wedding of someone I would consider to be an acquaintance, but not a personal friend. The bride-to-be […]

– Ask Cheryl – How Much Should I Spend on a Second Bridal Shower Gift?

January 8, 2018

When your mailbox is filled with invitations for weddings and showers, gift-giving can seem overwhelming. Today, we’ve got good news for your budget if you’ve been invited to multiple showers for the same bride! Dear Cheryl, I was invited to two showers for the same bride. What amount should I spend on a second bridal […]

– Ask Cheryl – Is it Okay to Give a Wedding Gift on Behalf of Someone Else?

December 26, 2017

We all want to be as generous and kind as possible, but does that mean it’s appropriate to give a wedding gift on someone else’s behalf? Dear Cheryl, How much should / would you recommend I give for my daughter’s second wedding? I am not helping pay for it. Also, would it be appropriate for […]

– Ask Cheryl – Not Invited to Baby Shower, but Can I still Send a Gift?

November 29, 2017

While some dread gift-giving obligations, others enjoy expressing their love and support by giving a gift. But if they haven’t received an invitation, would their gifts be appreciated or misunderstood? Dear Cheryl, Is it considered rude to send a gift to a baby shower that I am not invited to? My future daughter-in-law’s sister-in-law is […]

– Ask Cheryl – Appropriate Gifts for Wedding #2

November 15, 2017

This week’s question deals with gift-giving etiquette for second marriages—and in these situations, gift-givers have a few options! Dear Cheryl, My best friend’s son is getting married for the second time, but this is the bride’s first marriage. We are very close to these people, so what is appropriate for a gift? Thanks, -Rachel Hi […]

Ask Cheryl: Couple Requests Cash for their Honeymoon: To Give or Not to Give?

October 27, 2017

Today’s question comes from a reader who was asked to make a cash donation for a honeymoon in lieu of a wedding gift. She’s now not sure if she should attend the wedding or even send a gift.   Dear Cheryl,   My husband and I were planning to visit Italy this fall for a relative’s […]

– Ask Cheryl – Should I Send a Gift If Not Invited to the Wedding?

May 29, 2017

Our question today is from a reader that was not invited to the wedding of someone close to her, so she feels she may need to give a wedding gift. Dear Cheryl, I was not invited to the wedding of my good friend’s daughter. Should I give a wedding gift? I did give a substantial shower gift. Gina […]

– Ask Cheryl – Put an End to Gift Shaming

December 13, 2016

The holidays are upon us, and there’s a lot of focus on gift giving. I wanted to take a moment to talk about gifts and what to do if you don’t receive the gift you want or expected, or if you don’t receive a gift at all. Today’s Ask Cheryl question is from a reader […]

– Ask Cheryl – How Early Can I Send a Wedding Gift?

August 30, 2016

This email was received on June 23rd from an organized wedding guest that wants to know how early she can send her wedding gift so that she has the best selection from the registry. Dear Cheryl, I am attending a wedding on December 10th. How early can I send a wedding gift? I received a save […]

– Ask Cheryl – Invited but Barely Know the Couple, Do I Still Need to Give a Wedding Gift?

August 16, 2016

Today’s question comes from a reader who feels she has an out when it comes to the etiquette rule that you should send a gift if you are invited to the wedding, and I might agree . . . Hi Cheryl, My husband and I recently received invitations to two weddings from couples we hardly know. We […]

– AskCheryl – As Friend & Officiant, Do I Need to Give a Wedding Gift?

June 21, 2016

Should a friend that has offered to be the wedding officiant also give a wedding gift? Hi Cheryl! I was really pleased to find your article and information on Huffington Post. I have a question about an upcoming wedding I am going to be a part of as an officiant. (I apologize for the long […]

– Ask Cheryl – Since I’m Spending so Much Being in the Wedding am I Required to Give a Gift?

March 14, 2016

  Dear Cheryl, I live in California and I’m going to be in a wedding for a friend that’s getting married in Vermont. Since I’m spending close to $1000 on everything for the wedding, am I required to give a gift? I’m already spending so much that I don’t know how much I’d be able to […]

– Ask Cheryl – Our Daughter is the Flower Girl, Do We Still Give a Wedding Gift?

October 5, 2015

Hi Cheryl, My daughter was asked to be the flower girl in my cousin’s wedding. What is proper etiquette for gift giving? We have the expense of the dress, shoes and hair as well. We also have to drive out of town for the wedding and have the added expense of a night in the […]

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