– AskCheryl – Should I Send Wedding Registry Info to Friends & Family Not Invited to the Wedding?

June 27, 2019

When a couple decides to have a small wedding, it can sometimes be confusing to the rest of the family as to how they can share in celebrating their big day. Dear Cheryl, My daughter and her fiancé have decided to have a very small intimate wedding inviting only very close friends and immediate family, […]

– From Chicago Tribune – Is it rude that an older engaged couple has a wedding registry?

June 12, 2019

Cheryl Seidel, etiquette expert and founder of RegistryFinder.com, was featured on ChicagoTribune.com’s article Is it rude that an older engaged couple has a wedding registry? Click on the image below to read the full article at ChicagoTribune.com.

– Ask Cheryl – Invited to the Shower, but not the Wedding

May 28, 2019

It is a truth universally acknowledged (or at least it should be) that all those invited to the bridal shower must also be invited to the wedding. Unfortunately, confused couples sometimes extend shower invitations to those they can’t invite to the wedding. So what’s a shower guest to do when she finds she’s not included […]

– Ask Cheryl – Etiquette of Having a Bridal Shower with a Small Destination Wedding Guest List

May 14, 2019

When a couple chooses a non-traditional, destination wedding, family and friends might still insist on traditional pre-wedding celebrations, like a bridal shower. How should couples handle the pressure to register and have showers when their wedding guest list is small? Cheryl offers her solution, and the one etiquette rule that should never change with the […]

– Ask Cheryl – How Much Should You Spend on a Wedding Gift?

April 23, 2019

One of the most common questions we receive in our “Ask Cheryl” inbox is how much to spend on wedding and shower gifts. And while we love a hard and fast etiquette rule, this is one of those questions that doesn’t have a “one size fits all” answer. The amount a guest spends can depend […]

– Ask Cheryl – Who Should Receive a Graduation Announcement?

April 9, 2019

When sending out graduation invitations, it can be difficult to decide who should be on the mailing list. Cheryl, My daughter is graduating from high school in May and I’m preparing to order announcements. To whom should I send the announcement? My whole Christmas card list? I don’t want everyone to feel obligated to give […]

– Ask Cheryl – Can I Create a Gift Registry for a Second Marriage? 

March 26, 2019

Hello Cheryl, My daughter is getting married in March. It is her second marriage as well as her fiancé’s second marriage, and we are wondering if it’s okay to register for gifts. They really wanted to go with HoneyFund for their honeymoon, but decided to also register for a few gifts at a retail store. […]

– Ask Cheryl – Who Gets the Final Say on the Bridal Shower Guest List?

March 12, 2019

Today’s question tackles the often-debated bridal shower guest list. Who gets the final say: the bride or the hostess? Cheryl offers some clear guidelines and practical advice to help bickering brides and their hostesses. Dear Cheryl, My mother and sister are throwing me my bridal shower and asked that we go over the invite list. […]

– Ask Cheryl – How to Handle a Giftless Guest

February 26, 2019

When a guest doesn’t bring a gift, are brides obligated to write a note thanking her attending? Cheryl gives two options for how to handle a gifteless guest. Dear Cheryl, My daughter is writing thank you cards for gifts received at her bridal shower. She informed me that she did not receive a gift from […]

– AskCheryl – What’s an Appropriate Engagement Party Gift?

February 11, 2019

Did you know that over 40% of all engagements occur between Thanksgiving and Valentine’s Day? With so many engagements on the horizon, I’m often asked questions about engagement gift and engagement party etiquette. Here’s a question from a grandmother who wants to know what would be an appropriate gift for her granddaughter. Hello Cheryl, For my granddaughter’s engagement party, […]

– Ask Cheryl – Do Bridal Shower Guests Also Need to Be Invited to the Wedding?

January 22, 2019

It seems like every wedding involves at least one difficult invitation situation. How should the mother of the bride handle someone who offers to host a shower, but wasn’t included on the wedding guest list? Dear Cheryl, Like most couples, our daughter and future son-in-law have had to limit the guest list for various reasons, […]

– Ask Cheryl – Who Should Be Invited to a Bridal Shower?

January 8, 2019

Guest lists are tricky, but this is one question that can be answered with clear-cut guidelines. Hi Cheryl, My co-worker is throwing a wedding shower for me and has asked me for a list of people to invite. My whole work team will be invited to the wedding, so I will only include female team […]

– Ask Cheryl – Can I Give a Group Bridal Shower Gift?

December 11, 2018

Hi Cheryl, I’ve received an invitation to the bridal shower of my brother-in-law’s bride-to-be. This is his third marriage and her second. My three daughters are also invited, two of whom are in college. My youngest is a junior in high school. None of my daughters are working regularly. I planned to give a cashmere […]

– Ask Cheryl – How Do I Handle a Giftless Wedding Guest?

November 27, 2018

It’s all too common: a wedding guest shows up to the wedding, but never sends a gift. Is it ever appropriate to say something? Cheryl weighs in. Dear Cheryl, My cousin and his wife came to our son’s wedding but did not give a card or gift. Do I say something or just let it […]

– Ask Cheryl – Who Should I Invite to My Bachelorette Party?

November 6, 2018

The bachelorette party has become a huge production in recent years. What once was a fun night out with the bridesmaids has become an extravagant (and expensive) weekend-long trip. With the new bachelorette party comes new questions, like who should be invited? Hi Cheryl, What is the etiquette on inviting friends to a bridal shower […]

– Wedding Etiquette Question – What Costs Should the Bride Cover for Her Bridesmaids?

October 23, 2018

Being asked to be a bridesmaid for a friend’s wedding is exciting. But when the questions of travel, lodging, the bachelorette party and the wedding day itself arise, the bridesmaid may wonder, “Am I supposed to pay for that?” Money conversations are always awkward, but before you say yes to the honor of being a […]

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