– Ask Cheryl – Who Pays? Destination Weddings & the Bridesmaid’s Dress

September 10, 2019

Destination weddings sound fun and romantic until you’re asked to be a bridesmaid. Then all the practical thoughts set in! Here’s a recent question from a bridesmaid who is “in over her head” for her best friend’s destination wedding.   Dear Cheryl, My best friend is getting married next month and she decided to have […]

How to Be the Perfect Wedding Guest

September 3, 2019

Attending a wedding comes with its fair share of rules. (Don’t worry. They don’t get in the way of a good time!) From what to wear to who you can bring, there are plenty of questions to ask when you’ve been invited to a wedding. Read our guide below—we may just answer them for you. […]

Who Gets a Gift from the Bride and Groom?

August 29, 2019

Aside from receiving gifts on your wedding day, proper wedding etiquette suggests  that you give a few gifts, too. You may already be aware of the fact that the bride and groom generally give gifts to members of their wedding party as a thank you. But, by only giving gifts to your wedding party, you […]

– Ask Cheryl – What if I’m Invited to 2 Baby Showers for the same Mom-to-Be?

August 27, 2019

When a friend or family member announces her pregnancy everyone gets excited to plan a shower. Sometimes you run in more than one circle with the mother-to-be and you could be left wondering what to do when you’ve been invited to more than one shower. Dear Cheryl, I just read your article on baby shower […]

– Ask Cheryl – How Much Should I Give for a Second Marriage?

August 13, 2019

It’s very common to receive an invitation to an “encore” wedding, meaning a wedding of a couple who is getting married for the 2nd and even 3rd time. When deciding on a gift for them you may wonder what is the appropriate amount to spend based on the fact that this is not their first […]

– Ask Cheryl – Should You Have a Baby Shower for a Second or Even Third Child?

July 23, 2019

When expecting a second (or even third) child it can be just as exciting as it was with the first. Friends and family anticipate the arrival of baby number two and oftentimes want to show their excitement by throwing a baby shower. But you may be wondering if you should accept an offer for someone […]

Smartphone Etiquette and Unplugged Weddings

July 9, 2019

When I was planning my wedding last year, I didn’t expect many of the decisions I ultimately faced. Sure, there were the typical, unavoidable tasks of selecting dinner plates, chairs, floral arrangements, and lip color. But when it came time to consider whether to allow our guests’ phone usage during the ceremony, I thought it […]

– AskCheryl – Should I Send Wedding Registry Info to Friends & Family Not Invited to the Wedding?

June 27, 2019

When a couple decides to have a small wedding, it can sometimes be confusing to the rest of the family as to how they can share in celebrating their big day. Dear Cheryl, My daughter and her fiancé have decided to have a very small intimate wedding inviting only very close friends and immediate family, […]

– From Chicago Tribune – Is it rude that an older engaged couple has a wedding registry?

June 12, 2019

Cheryl Seidel, etiquette expert and founder of RegistryFinder.com, was featured on ChicagoTribune.com’s article Is it rude that an older engaged couple has a wedding registry? Click on the image below to read the full article at ChicagoTribune.com.

Six Social Media Rules for First-Time Parents

June 11, 2019

I recently met a young woman reveling in her role as a first-time parent. She mentioned she’s the first of her group of friends to have a child and, because of that, was concerned about how much information to share on social media regarding her new life and new baby. Her concern is very valid. […]

– Ask Cheryl – Invited to the Shower, but not the Wedding

May 28, 2019

It is a truth universally acknowledged (or at least it should be) that all those invited to the bridal shower must also be invited to the wedding. Unfortunately, confused couples sometimes extend shower invitations to those they can’t invite to the wedding. So what’s a shower guest to do when she finds she’s not included […]

– Ask Cheryl – Etiquette of Having a Bridal Shower with a Small Destination Wedding Guest List

May 14, 2019

When a couple chooses a non-traditional, destination wedding, family and friends might still insist on traditional pre-wedding celebrations, like a bridal shower. How should couples handle the pressure to register and have showers when their wedding guest list is small? Cheryl offers her solution, and the one etiquette rule that should never change with the […]

– Ask Cheryl – How Much Should You Spend on a Wedding Gift?

April 23, 2019

One of the most common questions we receive in our “Ask Cheryl” inbox is how much to spend on wedding and shower gifts. And while we love a hard and fast etiquette rule, this is one of those questions that doesn’t have a “one size fits all” answer. The amount a guest spends can depend […]

– Ask Cheryl – Who Should Receive a Graduation Announcement?

April 9, 2019

When sending out graduation invitations, it can be difficult to decide who should be on the mailing list. Cheryl, My daughter is graduating from high school in May and I’m preparing to order announcements. To whom should I send the announcement? My whole Christmas card list? I don’t want everyone to feel obligated to give […]

– Ask Cheryl – Can I Create a Gift Registry for a Second Marriage? 

March 26, 2019

Hello Cheryl, My daughter is getting married in March. It is her second marriage as well as her fiancé’s second marriage, and we are wondering if it’s okay to register for gifts. They really wanted to go with HoneyFund for their honeymoon, but decided to also register for a few gifts at a retail store. […]

– Ask Cheryl – Who Gets the Final Say on the Bridal Shower Guest List?

March 12, 2019

Today’s question tackles the often-debated bridal shower guest list. Who gets the final say: the bride or the hostess? Cheryl offers some clear guidelines and practical advice to help bickering brides and their hostesses. Dear Cheryl, My mother and sister are throwing me my bridal shower and asked that we go over the invite list. […]

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