– Wedding Etiquette Question – What Costs Should the Bride Cover for Her Bridesmaids?
January 24, 2023
Being asked to be a bridesmaid for a friend’s wedding is exciting. But when the questions of travel, lodging, the bachelorette party, and the wedding day itself arise, the bridesmaid may wonder, “Am I supposed to pay for that?” Money conversations are always awkward, but before you say yes to the honor of being a […]
– Ask Cheryl – If I Know Someone Can’t Attend My Wedding, Should I Still Send an Invitation?
September 8, 2020
Dear Cheryl, After setting our wedding date, some of my friends have already let me know that they won’t be able to attend. Should I still send them an invitation? Jenny Dear Jenny, In a perfect world, you get engaged, send out save-the-date cards and then send wedding invitations to every person who received a […]
– Ask Cheryl – Wedding Faux Pas Couples Should Avoid (Top 6 DO’s & DON’Ts)
August 11, 2020
When planning a wedding, brides (and grooms!) dream of their perfect wedding day. A day that celebrates their love and who they are as a couple. One goal is to host a memorable event that leaves a lasting impression on your guests. However, no newlywed couple wants their guests whispering, “Can you believe they did […]
– Ask Cheryl – Should the Mother of the Bride Be Invited to the Bridal Shower?
July 28, 2020
As the Mother of the Bride, you should have a place of honor at most of the wedding and pre-wedding events, including the bridal shower. But what if you (the MOB) and your other daughters (the sisters of the bride) have not been invited to the bridal shower? Dear Cheryl, My daughter’s fiancé’s aunt is […]
– Ask Cheryl – What To Do About Late or Never Received Wedding Gifts?
April 28, 2020
Wedding gifts may continue to arrive at your new home a month (or more) after your wedding day. Family and friends may even tell you to anticipate the arrival of such a gift, in the spirit of celebration and with hopes of showering you with love. But what do you do when those promised gifts […]
– Ask Cheryl – How Long Do I Have to Send a Wedding Gift?
March 24, 2020
Giving gifts to the wedding couple serves as a tangible representation of your love and support. When you’re invited to a wedding, you should send a gift, whether or not you are able to attend – but when should you send it? Dear Cheryl, I was invited to my friend’s wedding, and unfortunately was […]
– Ask Cheryl – What’s the Rule About Inviting Co-Workers to Your Wedding?
December 10, 2019
Planning a wedding can be exciting and stressful all at the same time. This is especially true when it comes to creating (and editing) the guest list. How do you decide which co-workers to invite? Dear Cheryl- I’m getting married next summer and need your help with my guestlist. I own a small business […]
– Ask Cheryl – Who Pays? Destination Weddings & the Bridesmaid’s Dress
September 10, 2019
Destination weddings sound fun and romantic until you’re asked to be a bridesmaid. Then all the practical thoughts set in! Here’s a recent question from a bridesmaid who is “in over her head” for her best friend’s destination wedding. Dear Cheryl, My best friend is getting married next month and she decided to have […]
Smartphone Etiquette and Unplugged Weddings
July 9, 2019
When I was planning my wedding last year, I didn’t expect many of the decisions I ultimately faced. Sure, there were the typical, unavoidable tasks of selecting dinner plates, chairs, floral arrangements, and lip color. But when it came time to consider whether to allow our guests’ phone usage during the ceremony, I thought it […]
– AskCheryl – Should I Send Wedding Registry Info to Friends & Family Not Invited to the Wedding?
June 27, 2019
When a couple decides to have a small wedding, it can sometimes be confusing to the rest of the family as to how they can share in celebrating their big day. Dear Cheryl, My daughter and her fiancé have decided to have a very small intimate wedding inviting only very close friends and immediate family, […]
– Love and… Remarriage – Etiquette for an Encore Wedding
September 11, 2018
As I write this I’m fondly remembering my good friend’s “Encore” wedding I recently attended. They orchestrated an amazing weekend-long party full of fun activities, incredible food and a heartfelt ceremony, in one of most beautiful settings imaginable- Aspen, Colorado. However, my friend told me that it was a challenge to find information, advice or […]
– Ask Cheryl – Which Traditions Should We Keep for our Second or Third Weddings?
March 26, 2018
Traditions like throwing the bouquet and cutting the cake are celebratory, but are they appropriate beyond the first wedding? Dear Cheryl, My upcoming marriage will be my third, and my fiance’s second. We originally planned to have a small gathering, but because of the size of his family it is turning into a larger celebration. […]
– Ask Cheryl – Our Daughter is the Flower Girl, Do We Still Give a Wedding Gift?
October 5, 2015
Hi Cheryl, My daughter was asked to be the flower girl in my cousin’s wedding. What is proper etiquette for gift giving? We have the expense of the dress, shoes and hair as well. We also have to drive out of town for the wedding and have the added expense of a night in the […]
– Ask Cheryl – Should I Have Been Invited to the Bridal Shower or Bachelorette Party?
September 8, 2015
This reader wonders if she should have received an invitation to pre-wedding events … Dear Cheryl, My husband and I were invited to a wedding. A month before the event he was invited to the bachelor party. It came to my attention that I was not invited to either the bachelorette party or the bridal […]
– Destination Weddings – Who Pays for What?
July 10, 2015
Why Choose a Destination Wedding? Destination weddings have become increasingly popular and what’s not to love about combining a fun, memorable wedding with a fabulous honeymoon? According to Emily Post’s Wedding Etiquette, up to 24% of weddings are now destination weddings! We’ve discovered several reasons that couples are choosing a destination wedding over a local […]
– AskCheryl – How Do I Let Guests Know about My Wedding Registry?
May 11, 2015
This is an often asked, but short and simple question from a reader. Dear Cheryl, How do you let guests know about your registry? – Zena Dear Zena, You ask a very good question which is probably on the minds of many brides and grooms today. But it has a very simple […]