– Ask Cheryl – How Do I Handle a Giftless Wedding Guest?
November 27, 2018
It’s all too common: a wedding guest shows up to the wedding, but never sends a gift. Is it ever appropriate to say something? Cheryl weighs in. Dear Cheryl, My cousin and his wife came to our son’s wedding but did not give a card or gift. Do I say something or just let it […]
– Ask Cheryl – Who Should I Invite to My Bachelorette Party?
November 6, 2018
The bachelorette party has become a huge production in recent years. What once was a fun night out with the bridesmaids has become an extravagant (and expensive) weekend-long trip. With the new bachelorette party comes new questions, like who should be invited? Hi Cheryl, What is the etiquette on inviting friends to a bridal shower […]
– Wedding Etiquette Question – What Costs Should the Bride Cover for Her Bridesmaids?
October 23, 2018
Being asked to be a bridesmaid for a friend’s wedding is exciting. But when the questions of travel, lodging, the bachelorette party and the wedding day itself arise, the bridesmaid may wonder, “Am I supposed to pay for that?” Money conversations are always awkward, but before you say yes to the honor of being a […]
– Ask Cheryl – Do I Have to Invite the Crazy Relative to My Wedding?
October 9, 2018
Every family has its quirky members, but is it ever ok to exclude them from the wedding guest list? Today, Cheryl offers her tips for hard-to-handle guests. Dear Cheryl, We’re in a bit of situation with our brother-in-law. At our daughter’s wedding, his behavior was so obnoxious that we decided to leave him out of […]
– Ask Cheryl – How Many Should Be Invited to the Bridal Shower?
September 25, 2018
Is it just us, or have you noticed that bridal showers are becoming larger and larger? Today, Cheryl advises a concerned hostess on how to handle a ballooning guest list. Read on for her tips and the etiquette behind why showers shouldn’t feel like mini-weddings. Dear Cheryl, Thank you so much for being available to […]
– Love and… Remarriage – Etiquette for an Encore Wedding
September 11, 2018
As I write this I’m fondly remembering my good friend’s “Encore” wedding I recently attended. They orchestrated an amazing weekend-long party full of fun activities, incredible food and a heartfelt ceremony, in one of most beautiful settings imaginable- Aspen, Colorado. However, my friend told me that it was a challenge to find information, advice or […]
– Ask Cheryl – Should Future Grandmas Invite Each Other to Baby Showers They are Hosting?
August 14, 2018
Today we’re tackling two hot topics when it comes to baby showers: who should host; and who should be invited. With two future grandmas hosting separate events, Cheryl advises how best to handle the question of whether it’s appropriate for the grandmas-to-be to invite one another. Hi Cheryl, Both the future grandmas are holding separate […]
– Ask Cheryl – Should Guests be Invited to Multiple Bridal Showers?
July 24, 2018
While it may seem like “anything goes,” these days when it comes to wedding etiquette, there are a few firm rules about guest lists and gift obligations. Dear Cheryl, My daughter has already had one shower which included me, her sisters, her bridesmaids and their mothers. Now she is having another shower given by an […]
– Ask Cheryl – Registry Info on a Wedding Announcement?
July 10, 2018
Many couples are choosing to hold smaller weddings and inform family and friends afterward via a printed wedding announcement. But when couples include registry information, should those receiving the announcements feel obligated to send a gift? Cheryl weighs in below. Dear Cheryl, My niece’s son had a small outdoor wedding on the coast and I […]
– Ask Cheryl – What’s Worse Than a Bridezilla? Two!
June 26, 2018
I’m often asked about etiquette for same-sex weddings. Are there differences? I’ve found that in general, the etiquette questions and dilemmas are the same no matter who is saying, “I do!” Take, for example, this question from a couple who finds themselves taking orders from two bossy brides. Dear Cheryl, I am writing on behalf […]
– Ask Cheryl – Can I Invite a Friend to My Niece’s Bridal Shower?
June 12, 2018
We hear this question quite often, and the answer never changes. Read on to find out more! Hi Cheryl, I am attending my niece’s bridal shower. Is it proper to ask the host, my sister-in-law, if I can invite a close friend of mine to attend? Thanks, Yvonne Hi Yvonne, Thank you for writing! The […]
– Ask Cheryl – Should Mother of the Groom Invite Close Friends to Son’s Second Wedding?
May 28, 2018
The topic of second marriages comes up frequently in the Ask Cheryl mailbox. Hopefully, this week’s question and answer will clear up questions about invitation and gift-giving etiquette. Hi Cheryl,My son is getting married for the second time, but this is his fiancé’s first wedding. Should I invite my close friends to his second wedding […]
– Ask Cheryl – Mother of the Bride meets Mother of the Groom – Is a Gift Appropriate?
April 24, 2018
Some personalities love giving gifts to make others feel welcomed—but is this practice ever over-the-top? Hi Cheryl, I’m meeting the groom’s mom for the first time at the bridal salon where my daughter is selecting her wedding dress. I want to make the groom’s mom feel comfortable and welcomed. Do I give a gift or […]
– Ask Cheryl – How Much to Spend on a Gift for an Acquaintance?
April 10, 2018
When you’re invited to celebrate the wedding of someone who isn’t a family member or close friend, choosing an appropriate wedding gift can be tricky. Read on for my advice. Dear Cheryl, I’ve been invited to the second wedding of someone I would consider to be an acquaintance, but not a personal friend. The bride-to-be […]
– Ask Cheryl – Which Traditions Should We Keep for our Second or Third Weddings?
March 26, 2018
Traditions like throwing the bouquet and cutting the cake are celebratory, but are they appropriate beyond the first wedding? Dear Cheryl, My upcoming marriage will be my third, and my fiance’s second. We originally planned to have a small gathering, but because of the size of his family it is turning into a larger celebration. […]
Who Traditionally Throws A Baby Shower? Is It Okay For A Family Member To Host?
March 19, 2018
Baby showers became popular during the baby boom era of the 1950s as a way help new moms prepare. They are also a way for family and friends to celebrate the new arrival. Today, in addition to traditional baby showers, many are opting to host a “Sprinkle” (for encore babies) or a “Sip and See” […]