When sending out graduation invitations, it can be difficult to decide who should be on the mailing list.
My daughter is graduating from high school in May and I’m preparing to order announcements. To whom should I send the announcement? My whole Christmas card list? I don’t want everyone to feel obligated to give my daughter a gift but I would love to celebrate my daughter’s achievements.
Thank you for writing. This is such a good question! Graduation is an exciting time but the etiquette can be confusing.
While the graduation announcement does not carry the obligation of a gift, the problem is that most people believe they “should” send a gift when they receive an announcement. Therefore, it’s best to limit sending them to relatives and those with whom you have regular contact.
Experts agree that graduation announcements should be sent to all those that have a close relationship with your family and the graduate. That would include your close family members, such as aunts, uncles, grandparents, and cousins, as well as close family friends. This would probably not include your entire Christmas card list. A good rule of thumb might be — don’t send an announcement to anyone that your graduate would not recognize in person. (Of-course, there might be exceptions.)
In this age of social media there is some debate whether to send announcements to people that are already aware of the event, as it appears to be an “ask” for gifts. I believe you should send announcements to all close family and friends, as most adults enjoy the formality and spirit of celebration that comes with the announcement. However, I do agree with this premise when it comes to the graduate’s personal friends.
All the best,
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Cheryl Seidel is an etiquette writer and the founder of RegistryFinder.com, an intuitive search engine that helps gift givers quickly and easily find online registries for weddings, baby showers, graduations and more.