This week’s question deals with gift-giving etiquette for second marriages—and in these situations, gift-givers have a few options!

Dear Cheryl,

My best friend’s son is getting married for the second time, but this is the bride’s first marriage. We are very close to these people, so what is appropriate for a gift?

Thanks,
-Rachel

 

Hi Rachel,

You have a couple of options here. Traditional etiquette states that if you purchased a gift for the first wedding, you do not need to give a gift for a second marriage. 

Did you purchase a gift for the groom’s first wedding?

• If yes, you have the option to forgo the gift. However, you can give a gift if you wish to — it’s really your choice. Gifting is always at the discretion of the giver.
• If not, it’s inconsequential that it is the groom’s second marriage. Give a normal wedding gift. Most gifts that would be given for a first marriage are also appropriate for a second wedding. If the couple has a wedding registry, you can select something from that or choose to give a monetary gift, depending on your customs and preferences. Your closeness to the couple and your budget determine how much you spend.

If you have questions or comments about this post, gift giving, bridal showers, baby showers, or wedding etiquette, please comment below or email AskCheryl@RegistryFinder.com.

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