–Cheryl Seidel–
– Ask Cheryl – Does My Bridal Shower Gift Have to Be From the Registry?
November 8, 2022
Hi Marcy, To rephrase your question, you are asking if it’s OK to buy a wedding or shower gift for a couple that they didn’t include on their wedding gift registry, and the answer is yes. Gift registries exist for guests’ convenience, and the gift registry is a list of suggestions, not a mandate. As […]
– Ask Cheryl – Should I Send a Gift to the Shower if I Can’t Attend?
October 25, 2022
You’re invited to a baby or bridal shower but can’t go. What are you supposed to do? It’s a common question from our readers and website users wanting to know if they should send a gift to a shower if they cannot be there in person. Dear Cheryl, Can I send my gift directly to […]
– Ask Cheryl – Wedding Invitation Not Specific, Can I Bring a Guest?
October 11, 2022
Today’s question is from a wedding guest who is confused about whether she can bring a “plus-one” to the wedding. Dear Cheryl,I am a single woman who received an invitation to a friend’s wedding. The wedding invitation came addressed only to me. There was no inside envelope which usually states Karen and Guest. In addition […]
– Ask Cheryl – Travel, Hotel, and a Wedding Gift Too?
September 27, 2022
Wedding guests often wonder if they should give the couple a gift even if they must incur travel expenses to attend the wedding. Dear Cheryl, I am going to my nephew’s wedding celebration out of state. The couple is already married. I have to purchase a flight and a hotel room, so I’m wondering: am I expected […]
Baby Shower Etiquette – Rules to Party By
September 13, 2022
Baby Shower Etiquette for All Involved I love baby showers. I can’t get enough of those cute baby clothes and practical gadgets – not to mention the champagne and girly foods. But I know some of you may not be as excited when a baby shower invitation arrives in your inbox or mailbox. Whether you […]
– AskCheryl – 1st Time Bridesmaid Asks, “Who Pays for the Bachelorette Party?”
August 23, 2022
Hello Cheryl, My best friend is having a destination wedding and asked me to be a bridesmaid. I generally do not like the idea of traveling internationally for a wedding, but I agreed to go and be there for her. This will be the first wedding I have ever attended. It’s the first time I’m […]
– AskCheryl – Etiquette for a Second Wedding – Anything Goes?
August 9, 2022
Today’s letter comes from a bride who has been previously married. She wants to know whether the etiquette for planning a second wedding differs from when planning the first wedding. Read on to find out! Dear Cheryl, What is the best way to handle a wedding when it’s the bride’s second wedding, but the groom’s […]
– Ask Cheryl – Baby Gifts and the Workplace
July 26, 2022
When someone in the office is expecting, is it appropriate to give a baby gift? What if you haven’t been invited to a shower? Dear Cheryl, One of our coworkers is expecting, and invited one member of the staff to her baby shower. My coworker who was invited collected money from the rest of us […]
– Ask Cheryl – Is it OK to Ask a Couple if a Wedding Gift Was Received?
July 12, 2022
If you’re wondering whether a wedding gift was received, is it ok to reach out and ask the couple? Read on to find out! Dear Cheryl, I took a gift to the wedding and had a gift from Amazon sent to the house. Today we received a gracious thank you for the gift we took […]
– Ask Cheryl – What is the Best Way to Give a Cash Wedding Gift?
June 28, 2022
Gift registries and online shopping have made purchasing wedding gifts easier than ever, but some guests (and couples!) still prefer cash. What’s the best way to send the money? Dear Cheryl, Is it permissible to include money in the wedding card on the day of the ceremony? I’d like to contribute toward the honeymoon fund […]
– Ask Cheryl – Can My Ex and I Give a Joint Wedding Gift?
April 26, 2022
Are there any rules for giving a joint wedding gift? Cheryl weighs in on co-gifting, even with an ex-husband, and shares some other wedding gift-giving FAQs. Dear Cheryl, My ex and I had a very amicable divorce. My nephew invited both of us to his wedding. I will be attending the wedding, but my ex […]
– Ask Cheryl – Registry Info on a Wedding Announcement?
April 12, 2022
Over the past few years, many couples have chosen more intimate weddings, then informed family and friends of their nuptials with a printed wedding announcement. But when newly wedded couples include registry information on that announcement, should those receiving it feel obligated to send a gift? Dear Cheryl, My niece’s son had a small outdoor […]
Baby Gifts for the Clueless
February 10, 2022
My 30-year-old daughter was home for a visit and asked me to help her find a baby gift. She didn’t have time to order from the registry, so we visited a local retailer with a baby department. I was surprised by how lost she felt while looking at baby gift choices. Her questions, “What’s this […]
– AskCheryl – If Paying for the Wedding, Should Parents-of-the-Bride Have a Role in the Planning?
December 28, 2021
Today’s question is from a newly minted Mother-of-the-Bride. She and her husband are paying for their daughter’s wedding and want to know their role in wedding planning. Dear Cheryl,My husband and I are paying for our daughter’s wedding. We are trying to help them find a venue, but they don’t want us to be involved. […]
– AskCheryl – What to do with Unwanted Wedding Gifts?
December 14, 2021
In this week’s AskCheryl question, our bride and groom have established lives and don’t want wedding gifts, but a disagreement has come up on how to handle any gifts that they do receive. Hi Cheryl, My fiancé and I are getting married in July. We are 45 and 51 years old. This is his first […]
– Ask Cheryl – Does Wedding Attendance Affect Wedding Gift Value?
October 26, 2021
Today’s question comes from a reader in New York who wants to know if the amount she spends on a wedding gift should be dependent on whether or not she attends the wedding. Dear Cheryl, Is there a difference in the amount you spend on a wedding gift when you attend a wedding versus what […]
