Is it appropriate to create a wedding registry for your second marriage? Read on to find out.
Hello Cheryl,
My daughter is getting married this year. It is her second marriage as well as her fiancé’s second marriage, and we are wondering if it’s okay to register for gifts.
They really wanted to go with HoneyFund for their honeymoon, but decided to also register for a few gifts at a retail store.
In my research, however, I’ve read that it is not proper to ask for gifts, but if someone asks then you can share the couple’s registry information. Is that correct?
Thank you so much,
Karen
Hi Karen,
You can put your mind at ease. If your daughter is hesitant to create a wedding gift registry for her second marriage, she can be assured that it is not a breach of etiquette. Most wedding guests will want to give a gift. Therefore, she will be helping them by providing a guide to what she and her fiiancé want and need.
Traditions evolve, but the wedding gift is still a tradition we enjoy. It symbolizes the gift giver’s support and well wishes for the couple and helps guests feel like they are part of the celebration. What is changing are the types of gifts being given. Now that more couples are getting married later, or for the second time, new wedding registry options are more popular.
So… it is OK if she wants to create a honeymoon registry; Honeyfund is a great choice. Registering at a retail store is also a good decision, ensuring gift options for all types of gift givers, including those wanting to give a more traditional wedding gift.
You are correct about the second part of your question. It’s never proper to ask for gifts, but when someone asks, you can share the couple’s registry information. You can also direct them to RegistryFinder.com, where they can find all of the couple’s registries in one place.
Remember, it’s still a faux pas (translation—tacky) to mention gifts or a registry on the wedding invitation or any other wedding correspondence, including save-the-dates. However, sharing your registry information on your wedding website is now acceptable. See our @AskaRealBride article, What Should I Include in My Wedding Website?
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