– Ask Cheryl – The Best Way to Give a Cash Wedding Gift

Gift registries and online shopping have made purchasing wedding gifts easier than ever, but some guests (and couples!) still prefer cash. What’s the best way to send the money?

Dear Cheryl,

Is it permissible to include money in the wedding card on the day of the ceremony? I’d like to contribute toward the honeymoon fund but prefer to do so via a wedding card with cash on the day of the wedding instead of giving it online to the honeymoon registry.


best way to give a cash wedding gift

Hi Jackie,

From an etiquette point of view, it’s absolutely fine to give cash to a couple getting married and include your gift in a congratulatory card. Wedding registries are gift suggestions to help wedding guests, not a mandate.

It’s also OK to give a gift on the wedding day. However, I recommend mailing the card and gift before the wedding. If you want to contribute to their honeymoon fund, sending it beforehand helps the couple know how much they will have to spend. Another concern I have with giving cash at the wedding is that your card may get misplaced in the flurry of wedding activity. Whether you send the card beforehand or take it to the wedding, I strongly recommend a check instead of cash.

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2 thoughts on “Ask Cheryl: The Best Way to Give a Cash Wedding Gift

  1. I can not find anything on Caroline Healey & Tim Nyugen’s wedding registry ( wedding is July 7,2023). Does this mean everything on the registry has been purchased?

  2. Hi Maureen,
    Sorry for the delay in getting back to you. It doesn’t look like the couple ever added any items to their Crate&Barrel registry.

    However, I did find an Amazon registry for the couple under the names Tim Nguyen & Carrie Healey – https://amzn.to/44IOLkF. Or you can check their wedding website on TheKnot for additional options: https://www.theknot.com/us/caroline-healey-and-timothy-nguyen-jul-2023/registry

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