Since many weddings we are invited to attend are “encore” weddings (2nd or 3rd marriages), today’s succinct question from Jim may be one that many of you are asking…
How much should I give for a 2nd marriage?
Thank you for writing. These days, there is often not much of a difference in the traditions of a first and second marriage. However, there is a traditional etiquette rule that applies to gifts for a second wedding. If you were invited to a first wedding and gave a gift, you are not expected to give a gift for the second marriage.
Other than that, traditional gifting etiquette applies. If you receive an invitation, it is customary to send a gift, whether or not you can attend the wedding. The amount you spend is entirely dependent upon your budget and closeness to the couple getting married. Some couples that have been married before and are of a more mature age will often ask that you do not give gifts, so you can and should follow those wishes.
If you have questions or comments about gift giving, bridal shower, baby shower, or wedding etiquette, please comment below or email AskCheryl@RegistryFinder.com.
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Cheryl Seidel is the founder and President of RegistryFinder.com, an intuitive search engine that helps gift givers quickly and easily find online registries for weddings, baby showers, graduations and more.