Today we’re tackling two hot topics when it comes to baby showers: who should host; and who should be invited.
With two future grandmas hosting separate events, Cheryl advises how best to handle the question of whether it’s appropriate for the grandmas-to-be to invite one another.
Both the future grandmas are holding separate baby showers. Do they invite each other to the showers they are hosting?
Thanks for your advice,
Thank you for writing. We are exploring new territory here. In the past, it was considered a bit gauche or inappropriate for the mother of the expectant parents to host a baby shower.
This norm seems to have changed and it’s understandable for a grandma-to-be to be excited to celebrate a grandchild, but I still think a friend or aunt is a better choice.
Your question is, “Should the future grandmas invite each other to the showers they are hosting?”
There is no right or wrong here answer here. Logic and best judgment should be your guide. It’s traditional for mothers of the couple to be invited to the baby shower, so in that vein, the answer would be yes.
However, if they don’t live in the same area and attending would require travel, then they should probably not invite each other. If there are any issues between the parties, such as competitiveness, it might be best to keep the parties separate and each enjoy their own party.
If there are no extenuating circumstances, I think it would be a nice gesture for each of them to include the other when hosting their baby shower.
I hope this is helpful!
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Cheryl Seidel is an etiquette writer and the founder of RegistryFinder.com, an intuitive search engine that helps gift givers quickly and easily find online registries for weddings, baby showers, graduations and more.