First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes the baby! (Well, not necessarily in that order anymore.) And while everyone loves a cute little bundle of joy, some may dread the baby shower. Love them or hate them, they’re a fact of life and if you’re a woman, you will most likely be invited to several during your lifetime.
Does What to Expect While You’re Expecting have a Baby Shower Section? I don’t think so. Here are some Baby Shower guidelines that will help you, whether you’re the hostess, guest, or guest of honor.
Baby Shower Etiquette for the Host
- Baby showers are to be arranged and hosted by a close friend, preferably not an immediate family member. Never (and I mean NEVER) give yourself a baby shower.
- Invitations should be sent at least three weeks prior to the baby shower.
- Etiquette states that baby gift registry information should not be included on the invitation, but can be enclosed separately. However, it seems to be the trend that shower hosts are including it on the invitation.
- If this is your first time hosting a baby shower, check out our Baby Shower Planning Tips to help you throw a successful event.
Baby Shower Etiquette for the Guests
- RSVP as soon as possible.
- If you are attending, you should bring a gift. If you can’t attend, you do not need to send a gift.
- While it is convenient and thoughtful to buy something from their baby gift registry, it’s not required. You can find all of mom’s baby registries at RegistryFinder.com. If she doesn’t have a registry, may we suggest one of these baby gifts? They’re sure to be a hit!
- Be polite and good-natured.
- Baby shower games may be silly, but be a good sport and participate.
- Say positive things to the expectant mother such as, “you’re glowing” or “pregnancy looks great on you!” in lieu of “you’re so big” or “having twins?” Women in the last months of pregnancy already feel huge; you don’t need to remind them.
- Don’t tell labor and delivery horror stories. It’s not the time or place.
Baby Shower Etiquette for the Guest of Honor
- Do not ask someone to give you a baby shower. It takes a big commitment in time and money on the part of the host. If someone offered, then you can graciously accept. If not, don’t worry! You will probably receive plenty of gifts when the baby is born.
- Do not make demands or obsess over the details of your shower. If the hostess asks for your input, give it. Otherwise, allow her to take care of the planning. Sit back, relax, and enjoy your special day!
- Handwritten thank-you notes should be sent within two weeks of the baby shower and before the baby comes, as you won’t have as much time after the baby arrives. A thank-you note should be sent even if you have thanked the gift-giver in person at the shower. Not sure what to say in your thank you note? We have included samples in this blog post! And don’t forget to write a special thank-you to your hostess(es).
If you have any additional baby shower questions or funny baby shower stories, please comment below. We’d love to hear from you!
— by Cheryl Seidel, President & Founder of RegistryFinder.com, who really loves attending baby showers and seeing all the adorable baby gifts.