If a couple invites their wedding guests to dinner after the ceremony, should their guests be expected to pick up the tab? Hi Cheryl, A dear friend of mine is getting married for the third time and it’s the groom’s second marriage. They are having a ceremony at the beach with no reception. She said we would… Continue reading Ask Cheryl: Asking Wedding Guests to Pay for the Reception?
Author: Cheryl Seidel
Cheryl is a happily married mom to two adult children and has recently enjoyed being a mother-of-the-bride. Her background in product development and marketing led Cheryl to create RegistryFinder.com, a search engine for gift registries, in 2012. Long considered a gift-giving and gift etiquette expert, her firm belief is that gifting should be fun, easy, and stress-free! Readers regularly write to Cheryl about their etiquette questions and she answers them here on our blog.
Ask Cheryl: Appropriate Gifts for Wedding #2
What is an appropriate gift for a second or “encore” wedding? Read on for the answer. Dear Cheryl, My best friend’s son is getting married for the second time, but this is the bride’s first marriage. We are very close to these people, so what is appropriate for a gift? Thanks,-Rachel Dear Rachel, Being invited… Continue reading Ask Cheryl: Appropriate Gifts for Wedding #2
Ask Cheryl: Is it Too Late to Celebrate Coworker’s Wedding?
The “workplace shower” is a somewhat modern practice that doesn’t always follow the traditional rules of wedding etiquette—and that’s okay! Dear Cheryl, My coworker got married two weeks ago. She didn’t invite me or anyone else from the office, and I completely understand given the high costs of weddings. Our coworkers never organized a shower… Continue reading Ask Cheryl: Is it Too Late to Celebrate Coworker’s Wedding?
Ask Cheryl: Do I Have to Invite the Crazy Relative to My Wedding?
Every family has its quirky members, but is it ever okay to exclude them from the wedding guest list? Today, Cheryl offers her tips for handling difficult guests. Dear Cheryl, We’re in a bit of a situation with our brother-in-law. At our daughter’s wedding, his behavior was so obnoxious that we decided to leave him… Continue reading Ask Cheryl: Do I Have to Invite the Crazy Relative to My Wedding?
Ask Cheryl: How Much Should I Spend on a Second Bridal Shower Gift?
When your mailbox is filled with invitations for weddings and showers, gift-giving can seem overwhelming. Today, we’ve got good news for your budget if you’ve been invited to multiple showers for the same bride! Dear Cheryl, I was invited to two showers for the same bride. What amount should I spend on a second bridal… Continue reading Ask Cheryl: How Much Should I Spend on a Second Bridal Shower Gift?
Ask Cheryl: Which Traditions Should We Keep for our Second or Third Weddings?
Traditions like throwing the bouquet and cutting the cake are celebratory, but are they appropriate beyond the first wedding? Dear Cheryl, My upcoming marriage will be my third, and my fiance’s second. We originally planned to have a small gathering, but because of the size of his family it is turning into a larger celebration.… Continue reading Ask Cheryl: Which Traditions Should We Keep for our Second or Third Weddings?
Ask Cheryl: Who Should I Invite to My Bachelorette Party?
In recent years, the bachelorette party has become a huge production. What once was a fun night out with the bridesmaids has become an extravagant (and expensive) weekend-long trip. The new bachelorette party format raises new questions, like who should be invited. Hi Cheryl, What is the etiquette on inviting friends to a bridal shower… Continue reading Ask Cheryl: Who Should I Invite to My Bachelorette Party?
Ask Cheryl: Should You Give Yourself a Baby Shower?
Sometimes, expectant mothers are understandably excited about their little one’s arrival and want to ensure they have everything they need. This may cause them to wonder if someone will honor them with a baby shower. Our reader wants to know if it’s OK for a mom-to-be to host her own baby shower. Cheryl, When is… Continue reading Ask Cheryl: Should You Give Yourself a Baby Shower?
Who Traditionally Throws A Baby Shower? Is It Okay For A Family Member To Host?
Baby showers became popular during the baby boom era of the 1950s as a way to help new moms prepare and for family and friends to celebrate the new arrival. Today, in addition to traditional baby showers, many are opting to host a “Sprinkle” (for encore babies) or a “Sip and See” (a celebration after… Continue reading Who Traditionally Throws A Baby Shower? Is It Okay For A Family Member To Host?
Wedding Guest Etiquette – What You Should (and Shouldn’t) Do As a Wedding Guest
Whether you’re attending your first wedding or a seasoned pro, it’s sometimes easy to forget the do’s and don’ts of being a good wedding guest. But here at RegistryFinder.com, we’re all about helping wedding guests, so we’ve compiled this list of simple guidelines—some of these may seem obvious, but unfortunately, they do happen. Before we… Continue reading Wedding Guest Etiquette – What You Should (and Shouldn’t) Do As a Wedding Guest
Ask Cheryl: Can I Create a Wedding Registry for a Second Marriage?
Is it appropriate to create a wedding registry for your second marriage? Read on to find out. Hello Cheryl, My daughter is getting married this year. It is her second marriage as well as her fiancé’s second marriage, and we are wondering if it’s okay to register for gifts. They really wanted to go with… Continue reading Ask Cheryl: Can I Create a Wedding Registry for a Second Marriage?
Ask Cheryl: Invited but Barely Know the Couple, Do I Still Need to Give a Wedding Gift?
Today’s question comes from a reader who feels she has an out when it comes to the etiquette rule that you should send a gift if you are invited to the wedding, and I might agree . . . Hi Cheryl, My husband and I recently received invitations to two weddings from couples we hardly… Continue reading Ask Cheryl: Invited but Barely Know the Couple, Do I Still Need to Give a Wedding Gift?
Ask Cheryl: Not Invited to Baby Shower, but Can I still Send a Gift?
While some dread gift-giving obligations, others enjoy expressing their love and support by giving a gift. But if they haven’t received an invitation, would their gifts be appreciated or misunderstood? Dear Cheryl, Is it considered rude to send a gift to a baby shower that I am not invited to? My future daughter-in-law’s sister-in-law is… Continue reading Ask Cheryl: Not Invited to Baby Shower, but Can I still Send a Gift?
Ask Cheryl: Should I Send a Gift If Not Invited to the Wedding?
Our question today is from a reader who was not invited to the wedding of someone close to her but feels she may need to give a wedding gift. Dear Cheryl, I was not invited to the wedding of my good friend’s daughter. Should I give a wedding gift? I did give a substantial shower gift. Gina… Continue reading Ask Cheryl: Should I Send a Gift If Not Invited to the Wedding?
Love and… Remarriage: Etiquette for an Encore Wedding
As I write this, I’m fondly remembering my good friend’s “Encore” wedding, which I recently attended. They orchestrated an amazing weekend-long party full of fun activities, incredible food, and a heartfelt ceremony in one of the most beautiful settings imaginable: Aspen, Colorado. However, my friend told me it was challenging to find information, advice, or… Continue reading Love and… Remarriage: Etiquette for an Encore Wedding
Ask Cheryl: How Much to Spend on a Bridesmaid’s Gift?
There are so many decisions to make when planning a wedding. Today, our AskCheryl reader is an organized bride who isn’t sure how much to spend on gifts for her attendants. Hi Cheryl! I have an etiquette question regarding the cost of wedding party gifts (I also read your article on the topic). We were planning on… Continue reading Ask Cheryl: How Much to Spend on a Bridesmaid’s Gift?