Today’s question comes from a reader in New York who wants to know if the amount she spends on a wedding gift should be dependent on whether or not she attends the wedding. Dear Cheryl, Is there a difference in the amount you spend on a wedding gift when you attend a wedding versus what […]

It can be challenging to decide who should be on the mailing list when sending out graduation invitations or announcements. Cheryl, My daughter is graduating from high school in May and I’m preparing to order announcements. To whom should I send the announcement? My whole Christmas card list? I don’t want everyone to feel obligated […]

        This is an often asked, but short and simple question from a reader. Dear Cheryl, How do you let guests know about your registry? – Zena Dear Zena, You ask a very good question which is probably on the minds of many brides and grooms today. But it has a very simple […]

At RegistryFinder.com, we love showing you all the best spots for your wedding and baby registries. What’s even better is discovering stores you already love that want to help you make the happiest moments of your life even more memorable! Maybe you remember Dillard’s from your days of hunting for the perfect prom dress. But […]

It’s all too common: a wedding guest shows up to the wedding, but never sends a gift. Is it ever appropriate to say something? Cheryl weighs in. Dear Cheryl, My cousin and his wife came to our son’s wedding but did not give a card or gift. Do I say something or just let it […]

Created by gifting etiquette expert Cheryl Seidel, new website streamlines search for any kind of online registry, including wedding, baby shower, graduation and more FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE: Boca Raton, FL – (March 2014) – RegistryFinder.com is a new search engine that helps gift givers quickly and easily find online registries for weddings, baby showers, graduations […]

Wedding etiquette can get a little tricky when there is a divorce in the family. Being a “former” extended family member might mean you are excluded from the wedding guest list; but is it obligatory or even ok to send a gift? Dear Cheryl, I am divorced, but a niece from his side is getting […]

Online gift registries have become more and more popular.  They’re not only used for weddings, bridal showers, and baby showers, but nowadays, people are using online gift registries for all kinds of special occasions including birthdays, graduations, anniversaries, and housewarming parties. Not familiar with online gift registries? An online gift registry is a type of […]

The most commonly asked question is… If I’m invited to a wedding and can’t attend, should I still send a gift?  The answer is yes. If at all possible, you should absolutely send a gift. If I’m invited to the shower, do I need to get a shower gift and a wedding gift?  This is […]

The topic of second marriages comes up frequently in the Ask Cheryl mailbox. Hopefully, this week’s question and answer will clear up questions about invitation and gift-giving etiquette. Hi Cheryl,My son is getting married for the second time, but this is his fiancé’s first wedding. Should I invite my close friends to his second wedding […]

We all want to be as generous and kind as possible, but does that mean it’s appropriate to give a wedding gift on someone else’s behalf? Dear Cheryl, How much should / would you recommend I give for my daughter’s second wedding? I am not helping pay for it. Also, would it be appropriate for […]

Today’s question comes from a reader who was asked to make a cash donation for a honeymoon in lieu of a wedding gift. She’s now not sure if she should attend the wedding or even send a gift.   Dear Cheryl,   My husband and I were planning to visit Italy this fall for a relative’s […]

Dear Cheryl, In the past 3 months, 3 of my best friends got married, all in a row. I graduated law school in May, took the Bar Exam in July, and then had a wedding in August, September and October…all while unemployed. I gave my friends wedding shower gifts, but I was not able to give […]

When you’re invited to celebrate the wedding of someone who isn’t a family member or close friend, choosing an appropriate wedding gift can be tricky. Read on for my advice. Dear Cheryl, I’ve been invited to the second wedding of someone I would consider to be an acquaintance, but not a personal friend. The bride-to-be […]

Now that you’re engaged, you’ve probably started planning the most important party of your life- your wedding! And while you’re preoccupied with selecting dresses, flowers, music, cake and more, you’re most likely not thinking about all the other occasions you’ll be hosting in the future. Once the honeymoon is over and you’ve settled into wedded […]

  Dear Cheryl, I live in California and I’m going to be in a wedding for a friend that’s getting married in Vermont. Since I’m spending close to $1000 on everything for the wedding, am I required to give a gift? I’m already spending so much that I don’t know how much I’d be able to […]