It is a truth universally acknowledged (or at least it should be) that all those invited to the bridal shower must also be invited to the wedding. Unfortunately, confused couples sometimes extend shower invitations to those they can’t invite to the wedding. So what’s a shower guest to do when she finds she’s not included… Continue reading Ask Cheryl: Invited to the Shower, but not the Wedding
Category: Etiquette
Ask Cheryl: Etiquette of Having a Bridal Shower with a Small Destination Wedding Guest List
When a couple chooses a non-traditional, destination wedding, family and friends might still insist on traditional pre-wedding celebrations, like a bridal shower. How should couples handle the pressure to register and have showers when their wedding guest list is small? Cheryl offers her solution, and the one etiquette rule that should never change with the… Continue reading Ask Cheryl: Etiquette of Having a Bridal Shower with a Small Destination Wedding Guest List
Ask Cheryl: Who Should Receive a Graduation Announcement?
It can be challenging to decide who should be on the mailing list when sending out graduation invitations or announcements. Cheryl, My daughter is graduating from high school in May and I’m preparing to order announcements. To whom should I send the announcement? My whole Christmas card list? I don’t want everyone to feel obligated… Continue reading Ask Cheryl: Who Should Receive a Graduation Announcement?
Ask Cheryl: Who Gets the Final Say on the Bridal Shower Guest List?
Today’s question tackles the often-debated bridal shower guest list. Who gets the final say: the bride or the hostess? Cheryl offers some clear guidelines and practical advice to help bickering brides and their hostesses. Dear Cheryl, My mother and sister are throwing me my bridal shower and asked that we go over the invite list.… Continue reading Ask Cheryl: Who Gets the Final Say on the Bridal Shower Guest List?
Ask Cheryl: How to Handle a Giftless Guest
When a guest doesn’t bring a gift, are brides obligated to write a note thanking her attending? Cheryl gives two options for how to handle a gifteless guest. Dear Cheryl, My daughter is writing thank you cards for gifts received at her bridal shower. She informed me that she did not receive a gift from… Continue reading Ask Cheryl: How to Handle a Giftless Guest
Ask Cheryl: Do Bridal Shower Guests Also Need to Be Invited to the Wedding?
It seems like every wedding involves at least one difficult invitation situation. How should the mother of the bride handle someone who offers to host a shower, but wasn’t included on the wedding guest list? Dear Cheryl, Like most couples, our daughter and future son-in-law have had to limit the guest list for various reasons,… Continue reading Ask Cheryl: Do Bridal Shower Guests Also Need to Be Invited to the Wedding?
Ask Cheryl: Who Should Be Invited to a Bridal Shower?
Guest lists are tricky, but this is one question that can be answered with clear-cut guidelines. Hi Cheryl, My co-worker is throwing a wedding shower for me and has asked me for a list of people to invite. My whole work team will be invited to the wedding, so I will only include female team… Continue reading Ask Cheryl: Who Should Be Invited to a Bridal Shower?
Ask Cheryl: Can I Give a Group Bridal Shower Gift?
Hi Cheryl, I’ve received an invitation to the bridal shower of my brother-in-law’s bride-to-be. This is his third marriage and her second. My three daughters are also invited, two of whom are in college. My youngest is a junior in high school. None of my daughters are working regularly. I planned to give a cashmere… Continue reading Ask Cheryl: Can I Give a Group Bridal Shower Gift?
Ask a Real Bride: 7 Tips for Handling Wedding Guest Drama
For most couples, finalizing the guest list can feel like navigating a minefield filled with potential emotional explosions. Divorced parents, squabbling siblings, and contentious relationships all make planning a drama-free wedding a huge challenge for brides and grooms. So in today’s edition of “Ask a Real Bride,” we’re sharing tips for how to handle those… Continue reading Ask a Real Bride: 7 Tips for Handling Wedding Guest Drama
Ask Cheryl: How Do I Handle a Giftless Wedding Guest?
It’s all too common: a wedding guest shows up to the wedding, but never sends a gift. Is it ever appropriate to say something? Cheryl weighs in. Dear Cheryl, My cousin and his wife came to our son’s wedding but did not give a card or gift. Do I say something or just let it… Continue reading Ask Cheryl: How Do I Handle a Giftless Wedding Guest?
Ask Cheryl: Should Future Grandmas Invite Each Other to Baby Showers They are Hosting?
Today, we’re tackling two hot topics when it comes to baby showers: who should host and who should be invited. With two future grandmas hosting separate events, Cheryl advises how best to handle the question of whether it’s appropriate for the grandmas-to-be to invite one another. Hi Cheryl, Both the future grandmas are holding separate… Continue reading Ask Cheryl: Should Future Grandmas Invite Each Other to Baby Showers They are Hosting?
Ask Cheryl: What’s Worse Than a Bridezilla? Two!
I’m often asked about etiquette for same-sex weddings. Are there differences? I’ve found that in general, the etiquette questions and dilemmas are the same no matter who is saying, “I do!” Take, for example, this question from a couple who finds themselves taking orders from two bossy brides. Dear Cheryl, I am writing on behalf… Continue reading Ask Cheryl: What’s Worse Than a Bridezilla? Two!
Ask Cheryl: Can I Invite a Friend to My Niece’s Bridal Shower?
We hear this question quite often, and the answer never changes. Read on to find out more! Hi Cheryl, I am attending my niece’s bridal shower. Is it proper to ask the host, my sister-in-law, if I can invite a close friend of mine to attend? Thanks, Yvonne Hi Yvonne, Thank you for writing! The… Continue reading Ask Cheryl: Can I Invite a Friend to My Niece’s Bridal Shower?
Ask Cheryl: Should Mother of the Groom Invite Close Friends to Son’s Second Wedding?
The topic of second marriages comes up frequently in the Ask Cheryl mailbox. Hopefully, this week’s question and answer will clear up questions about invitation and gift-giving etiquette. Hi Cheryl,My son is getting married for the second time, but this is his fiancé’s first wedding. Should I invite my close friends to his second wedding… Continue reading Ask Cheryl: Should Mother of the Groom Invite Close Friends to Son’s Second Wedding?
Here’s How Much Time You Have After the Wedding to Send a Gift
Cheryl Seidel, etiquette expert and founder of RegistryFinder.com, was featured on CNBC.com’s article Here’s how much time you have after the wedding to send a gift. Click on the image below to read the full article at CNBC.com.
Fact or Fiction? The Wedding Plus One Debate
Ask any bride and groom and they’ll tell you—making the guest list is the hardest part of planning a wedding. Between rising wedding costs, venue space restrictions and trying to plan a small wedding (if that’s what you’re into), there are so many factors that go into deciding the exclusive list of wedding invitees. And… Continue reading Fact or Fiction? The Wedding Plus One Debate