As the Mother of the Bride, you should have a place of honor at most of the wedding and pre-wedding events, including the bridal shower. But what if you (the MOB) and your other daughters (the sisters of the bride) have not been invited to the bridal shower? Dear Cheryl, My daughter’s fiancé’s aunt is… Continue reading Ask Cheryl: Should the Mother of the Bride Be Invited to the Bridal Shower?
Author: Cheryl Seidel
Cheryl is a happily married mom to two adult children and has recently enjoyed being a mother-of-the-bride. Her background in product development and marketing led Cheryl to create RegistryFinder.com, a search engine for gift registries, in 2012. Long considered a gift-giving and gift etiquette expert, her firm belief is that gifting should be fun, easy, and stress-free! Readers regularly write to Cheryl about their etiquette questions and she answers them here on our blog.
Ask Cheryl: Help! I’m Tired of Going to So Many Baby Showers!
The arrival of a new baby is always exciting! First baby, second baby, third baby, fourth baby; each one a new special blessing! But what may not be as exciting as the new baby, is the arrival of a second, third, or fourth baby shower invitation for the same family member! Your initial thought may… Continue reading Ask Cheryl: Help! I’m Tired of Going to So Many Baby Showers!
Ask Cheryl: When Should I Send a Wedding Gift if the Ceremony and the Reception Are a Year Apart?
With so much uncertainty and fear surrounding the Corona virus, it has been refreshingly romantic to see the creative ways that some couples have decided to proceed with exchanging their wedding vows, even if it meant cancelling, downsizing, or postponing the reception! If you do know a couple who will be having a small (somewhat… Continue reading Ask Cheryl: When Should I Send a Wedding Gift if the Ceremony and the Reception Are a Year Apart?
Ask Cheryl: Should Adult Children Receive Their Own Wedding Invitation?
In today’s post, Jacqueline is concerned about wedding gift etiquette when it comes to adult children. However, the real issue is that the adult children should have each received their own wedding invitations. Hi Cheryl, My niece is getting married in October. My husband and I are having a problem with what is expected regarding… Continue reading Ask Cheryl: Should Adult Children Receive Their Own Wedding Invitation?
Ask Cheryl: What To Do About Late or Never Received Wedding Gifts?
Wedding gifts may continue to arrive at your new home a month (or more) after your wedding day. Family and friends may even tell you to anticipate the arrival of such a gift, in the spirit of celebration and with hopes of showering you with love. But what do you do when those promised gifts… Continue reading Ask Cheryl: What To Do About Late or Never Received Wedding Gifts?
Ask Cheryl: How Long Do I Have to Send a Wedding Gift?
Giving gifts to the wedding couple serves as a tangible representation of your love and support. When you’re invited to a wedding, you should send a gift, whether or not you are able to attend – but when should you send it? Dear Cheryl, I was invited to my friend’s wedding, and unfortunately was… Continue reading Ask Cheryl: How Long Do I Have to Send a Wedding Gift?
Ask Cheryl: Should I Send a Wedding Gift to My Former Niece?
Wedding etiquette can get a little tricky when there is a divorce in the family. Being a “former” extended family member might mean you are excluded from the wedding guest list; but is it obligatory or even ok to send a gift? Dear Cheryl, I am divorced, but a niece from his side is getting… Continue reading Ask Cheryl: Should I Send a Wedding Gift to My Former Niece?
Ask Cheryl: Is a First Baby Shower Mandatory?
You’re pregnant with your first baby! Congratulations! This is a special time for you and, hopefully, a time of joy and celebration. Your friends and family will also want to celebrate the upcoming arrival. But is a baby shower necessary? Maybe you feel like a baby shower is just another social obligation. Perhaps you would… Continue reading Ask Cheryl: Is a First Baby Shower Mandatory?
Ask Cheryl: What are the Duties of a Bridesmaid?
Dear Cheryl, Help! I am getting married in 3 months and so far my bridesmaids haven’t helped me with anything! I’m starting to believe they think being a bridesmaid means they get to wear a pretty dress and walk down the aisle. The only time we have all been together was to pick out said… Continue reading Ask Cheryl: What are the Duties of a Bridesmaid?
Ask Cheryl: To Throw or Not to Throw a Bridal Shower?
While everyone loves to celebrate, there are times a bridal shower just isn’t necessary or appropriate. Read on for Cheryl’s advice regarding one situation where a bridal shower doesn’t need to be given. Hi Cheryl, I have a question regarding wedding shower etiquette: We have a nephew getting married (destination wedding) and are not invited… Continue reading Ask Cheryl: To Throw or Not to Throw a Bridal Shower?
Ask Cheryl: How do I Register for a Honeymoon?
There are many reasons why couples might choose to skip the traditional registry: they’re older, have already established a home, or live in an area where shipping gifts is impossible. In these situations, some couples ask that their guests give in non-traditional ways. Today, Cheryl shares how to communicate a honeymoon registry to your guests.… Continue reading Ask Cheryl: How do I Register for a Honeymoon?
Ask Cheryl: What’s the Rule About Inviting Co-Workers to Your Wedding?
Planning a wedding can be exciting and stressful all at the same time. This is especially true when it comes to creating (and editing) the guest list. How do you decide which co-workers to invite? Dear Cheryl- I’m getting married next summer and need your help with my guestlist. I own a small business… Continue reading Ask Cheryl: What’s the Rule About Inviting Co-Workers to Your Wedding?
Ask Cheryl: When You’re Left Out of the Bridal Shower
Whether you’re a child on the playground or an adult scrolling social media, realizing you’ve been excluded is hurtful. When it comes to showers and weddings, what are the rules for a guest who feels left out? Cheryl offers her advice to a friend of the bride who’s feeling left out. Dear Cheryl, My friend… Continue reading Ask Cheryl: When You’re Left Out of the Bridal Shower
Ask Cheryl: Should Parents Pay for a Second or Third Wedding?
The Ask Cheryl inbox is flooded with questions regarding encore weddings. Today, Cheryl addresses the question of who pays for a third wedding: where do the parental responsibilities end when it comes to encore weddings? Cheryl’s answer goes beyond the budget, as she reminds all parents of adult children to handle wedding planning calmly, lovingly,… Continue reading Ask Cheryl: Should Parents Pay for a Second or Third Wedding?
Ask Cheryl: Shower for Baby Two: Too Soon?
Your baby boy is less than a year old, and you find out you’re pregnant again. You’re excited that you’re having a baby girl, and you know in order to prepare for her arrival, you will need a few items you don’t currently have. Your friends are offering to throw you a baby shower, but… Continue reading Ask Cheryl: Shower for Baby Two: Too Soon?
AskCheryl: Due to Family Issues, We Want a Very Small Wedding. How Do We Avoid Hurt Feelings?
Your wedding day is supposed to be the happiest day of your life. As wonderful as that sounds, the days leading up to it can be very stressful as you compile your guest list and choose a venue. Complicated family relationships may lead you to consider a small destination wedding with a limited guest list.… Continue reading AskCheryl: Due to Family Issues, We Want a Very Small Wedding. How Do We Avoid Hurt Feelings?